Conquering Fears

Top 2 Fears Holding Me Back and How I’m Finally Facing Them

Fears hold me back almost daily, so today’s topic is how 2 of my biggest fears have held me back in my career and in my business and how I’m finally facing those fears today. My purpose in writing down these fears is actually part of my plan to face them. For me, the best place to begin my path to overcoming my fears is to lay them out there. To admit them. To declare them.

My second purpose in writing these down is that I’m really hoping someone can read this and relate. Maybe they, too, have fears holding them back from great success in their career and/or business. We all have fears and we all fail to face them. Often it’s because we’re simply not ready. But I’m willing to bed that most of the time it’s because we feel alone.

Well if you’re reading this, rest in knowing that you’re not alone. It’s ok to have the fears that are facing you. But it’s not ok to let them defeat you. So let’s stand together and face our fears and find the true success and happiness we truly deserve.

It’s going to be hard, but it’s also going to be so worth it. So here goes…

1. What will my friends think of me?

For years I’ve written blog posts and even gotten as far as posting them, only to delete them soon after. I also NEVER post them on social media. Why? Because I’m totally afraid of what people will think, more specifically what my friends will think.

It’s stupid. My friends would totally support me and encourage me. They have never given me any reason to doubt that, but still the fear remains.

Every time I even think about doing a Facebook Live video, posting a blog post, recording a podcast, or posting any other type of content my first thought is always, “I’m sure people will think this is stupid.” I fabricate their responses in my head and they convince me not to put my content out there every single time.

Well today that ends. I’m facing that fear by ignoring the self-doubt and posting the content I’ve always dreamed about posting. This very blog post is the first step of me ignoring the fear. I’m not good at blogging or writing or creating content, but I’m not letting this fear keep me from creating.

2. I don’t know enough

Impostor Syndrome at it’s finest. I’m constantly convincing myself that I don’t know enough to make an impact. But, again, I have no reason to believe that. I have experience and knowledge and I should feel more than confident to share what I know.

I grew up learning marketing and business from my dad as he started his own advertising business and taught me how to do photography and graphic design at an early age.

I’ve been a graphic designer for 17 years.

I’ve been creating websites for 15 years.

I’ve been running my own side business for 10 years.

I’ve been running a second side gig (Making nylon camping hammocks – yeah, I sew!) for the past 2 years.

I’ve read hundreds of thousands of posts, articles, and emails on marketing, business, and design.

I’ve spent the last 8 months as a senior designer leading a team of amazing designers at a multi-billion dollar company.

I could go on and on with reasons I shouldn’t have impostor syndrome, but each of the reasons is still difficult to write. I’m not an arrogant person. It’s hard for me to “brag” on myself. I like to let my work do that for me.

But for some reason when I start to create content to teach or help other people, I start to think that I don’t know enough to really be of any help. I start to think there’s probably someone else more capable of helping with the specific topic than I am.

To get past this fear, I’m going to create a PDF ebook that I’ll post on my blog for free. I’ll pick a topic that I know I have experience at, and share it for free. Hopefully someone will find it useful. If it helps one other person, then it was worth doing.

I also plan to also release a few training/coaching/teaching courses this year. Topics for those is also TBD.

I’m no expert, but I have knowledge and experience. Experience that someone else may not have. It’s worth facing my fear to eat least put my content out there and hope it helps someone else avoid the same mistakes I’ve made and hopefully find success faster than I ever have.

What fears are holding you back?

Are fears holding you back? Share them below and let’s face our fears together. It’s not worth missing out on helping others just because we’ve convinced ourselves of things that have no reason to hold us back.

Also published on Medium.